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The “fag bug” has been spotted

Thursday, May 31st, 2007

Remember the “fag bug?” Here’s an update from Erin Davies herself:

Last week while i was out at a bar for 2 hours, someone took a razor blade to my driver’s side window and removed the f, the a, and most of g of “fag” from my car. This ultimately puts me in an awkward position given some of the responses I’ve had. Do I restore it or not? I feel like this person either wanted to stop me from doing my trip or wants to put me in a position to put it back on myself so he can continue to blame me for doing it myself or bug_logo_1.jpghe is the one who did it to my car to begin with and is so upset that it is getting a positive response rather than the humiliation and guilt he intended on placing upon me by doing this. The more things that unravel with this, the more I believe it to be all three of those. In the end my decision is to restore the word “fag” on my car exactly as it was because that was my choice to keep it there, and it is my decision to make when to remove it, not someone else’s. It’s like this person vandalized my car all over again. In doing this, I have had to continually check in with myself to see how committed I am to what I’m doing, and along the way lots of things have happened that have made me recommit myself where my personal comfort has been pushed or challenged.

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Notable Lesbians

Thursday, May 31st, 2007

This week’s Notable Lesbian is:

Anne Lister
1791–1840

Anne was called “Gentleman Jack” by Halifax residents, and is known as the “first modern lesbian.” She was a well-off Yorkshire landowner and self-conscious lesbian who suffered from recorded harassment for her sexuality.lister.jpg Anne is best known for her coded journals in which she recorded her daily life, romances, and seductions, as well as her rigorous program of study. She also traveled widely. Her affair with a wealthy heiress, Ann Walker, was a story of local repute.

Interesting tid bit:
During her life she wrote a four million word diary. Around one sixth of the diary is encrypted and describes quite graphically her lesbian nature and affairs.

“I love and only love the fairer sex and thus beloved by them in turn, my heart revolts from any love but theirs.” ~ Anne Lister

View Anne’s Journals

If you have a suggestion for a Notable Lesbian, e-mail me at lyndsey.darcangelo@451press.net or use the contact form above and I’ll highlight her in an upcoming post.

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Ten moments when the mainstream adopted gay culture

Wednesday, May 30th, 2007

I’m not sure if anyone else saw this yesterday, but I thought it was worth checking out. It’s always fun to look back in time and see how our culture has influenced the mainstream, and in turn, to see how the mainstream had embraced our culture.

The Phoenix -

In our post–Queer Eye for the Straight Guy world, many people — particularly younger people — take for granted that the divide between gay culture and mainstream culture is as thin as the latex of an expensive condom. This has not always been the case. Since the Stonewall Riots of 1969, the underground gay counterculture has consistently, and vitally, influenced mainstream popular culture in style, music, fashion, language, sexual mores, and politics. Here are 10 moments — all of them decisive — that chart the gradual, but irrefutable, queering of American culture.

1970: Bette Midler, camp out
In 1970, Bette Midler, mixing an outrageous blend of camp, sex talk, and Andrews Sisters tunes began performing at Manhattan’s Continental Baths. Within six months, she was one of Johnny Carson’s favorite guests, and in early 1973, her LP The Divine Miss M went gold. The rest has been wind beneath her wings.

1972: David Bowie, alien sex
If the Rolling Stones shocked middle-class sensibilities with their rough, thrusting cock-rock swagger, it was Ziggy Stardust — a/k/a David Bowie — in 1972 who single-handedly invented glam rock, making androgyny, glitter, face paint, and ambisexual posturing the newest threat to red-blooded American youth, spawning artists such as KISS and Boy George.

1977: The Village People, muscle shirts
In 1977, producer Jacques Morali manufactured disco sensation the Village People, who satirized butch gay-male stereotypes. What began as an insider parody sold more than 85 million albums and “YMCA” — a testimonial to anonymous gay-boy sex — is now a staple of summer-camp sing-alongs.

1984: Madonna, art of the shallow
Her impersonations of Marilyn Monroe in her 1984 “Material Girl” video and appropriation of black-gay voguing in the 1990 hit “Vogue” made Madonna a premiere conduit of gay culture to the young masses. Aside from instructing teenage girls to wear devotional jewelry, she also was vehement in her endorsement of gay rights.

1985: Rock Hudson, a crack in the mirror
Rock Hudson, the 1950s’ most vital, masculine, heterosexual heartthrob, died of AIDS-related infections in 1985, making Hudson’s long-rumored homosexuality all too visible. The culture shock was a result not only of his death, but of the new understanding that life beneath the tinsel of Hollywood was queerer than moviegoers had previously suspected.

1992: Calvin Klein briefs, mmm . . .
Men’s bodies have always been sexualized in gay-male culture — Physique Pictorial of the 1950s became the template for male bods everywhere. But in 1992, photographer Herb Ritts upped the ante — and the booty — with his Calvin Klein ads, which brought a gay-porn sensibility to Vanity Fair.

1997: Ellen, soft butch next door

In 1997, Ellen Degeneres — the most famous soft-butch in America, after Hillary Clinton — “came out” on her TV sit-com. The show was cancelled a year later, but Ellen made Will and Grace, Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, Queer as Folk, and The L World possible.

1998: Dennis rodman, boa bad
Dennis Rodman’s 1998 autobiography Bad as I Wanna Be was as revealing as his flagrant display of body art. Rodman’s fondness of tattoos, piercings, flamboyantly colored cranial plumage, and wedding dresses was a triumph of mix-messaged drag/punk/biker gay sensibility — the precursor to the milder metrosexual.

1998: Still more Sex and the City

It’s no surprise that critics thought Sex and the City (1998–2004) was the ultimate integration of gay-male sensibility into TV: it was written by gay men, and it’s edgy sexual dialogue and plots were gayer than Will and Grace. Is this what heterosexual women really sounded like in private? Only their screenwriters know for sure. Het-sexual freedom, once again, turned out to be a copy of queer life and love.

2006: Mark Foley, closeted conservative

In September 2006, Florida Republican Congressman Mark Foley resigned amid allegations of improper behavior toward male pages; heterosexuals breathed a sigh of relief that it wasn’t — yet again — one of them. But Foley’s indiscretions evinced not only another crack in the facade of Republican respectability, but a true sign of the old gay-lib adage: we are everywhere.

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A case of reverse prejudice or a viable precaution?

Tuesday, May 29th, 2007

I’m a firm believer in the phrase, “Two wrongs don’t make a right.” Here’s another little ditty I enjoy: “Treat others as you would like to be treated.”

We, as homosexuals, are sometimes treated as second-class citizens, discriminated against and often seen as sick or disturbed by certain religions based organizations. The emotional and mental effect is down right staggering.

As a result, we have created numerous organizations to battle this kind of treatment on a daily basis. We want others to sympathize with us, to understand the kind of scrutiny we face. We want an equal playing field on which to live our lives and yet, some of us take things to such an extreme, or should I say obtuse, angle that we undoubtedly don’t need to go to.

Australia - A gay pub in the city of Melbourne has won the right to ban heterosexuals - the first time such a decision has been made in Australia. Straight

The Victorian state civil and administrative tribunal ruled the Peel Hotel could ban patrons based on their sexual orientation.

The pub’s management said the move would stop groups of heterosexual men and women from abusing gay people.

“If I can limit the number of heterosexuals entering the Peel, then that helps me keep the safe balance,” the hotel’s manager, Tom McFeely, told Australian radio, according to the Reuters news agency.

Civil liberties groups have supported the decision. Read More

Banning heterosexuals? Sounds like a case of heterophobia to me…

As a homosexual, I find this disheartening for a couple of reasons. First, I’m shocked that this pub felt the need to create a “safe” environment for gay individuals in the first place and that said “safe” environment required banning straight people in order to make it “safe.” Second, how does this help us reach that level playing field that we constantly seek from straight-oriented institutions? How can we maintain the mantra that we are all created equal, and that gay people deserve to be treated the same as straight people when we start barring others from our own institutions simply for being of a different sexual orientation?

Is this what things are coming to?

I understand the need for safety, and for a peaceful place in which we can go to feel a part of a community without the fear of being discriminated against, but why do we have to discriminate in order to secure such a place? I live in Buffalo, NY and our gay community is extremely small. There is strip down town filled with numerous straight bars for all to enjoy. I choose not to go to these bars, not for fear of discrimination, but because it’s not my thing. Instead, I go to a place called Allen St., which is filled with dive bars, coffee shops and a few gay bars. I feel comfortable there, it’s more my style. And I know plenty of straight people who visit the same establishments as I do. There’s no stigma attached, no “gay only” label. And that’s the way it should be. I have the option to go where I want to go, straight, gay, brown, purple, or what not, and others enjoy the same freedom.

How would the GLBT community react if a straight bar in a popular city decided to ban gay people? Would there be an uproar? Of course there would be.

We can’t ask for certain rights and then turn around and deny those same rights to others. It’s like beating your head against a brick wall – It won’t get you anywhere. All you’ll be left with is a headache and a view that never changes.

Be sure to check Lez Keep it Real tomorrow for, “The ‘fag bug’s been spotted!” Erin Davies will guest blog once a week to let us know how her “fag bug” journey is going.

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Learn how to plan the perfect GLBT wedding

Monday, May 28th, 2007

Tenafly, NJ– RainbowWeddingNetwork.com (RWN) will produce the “Same Love, Same Rights”® GLBT Wedding and Family Expo at the Clinton Inn Hotel on August 12, 2007 from noon to 5pm. RWN was created in 2000 to bridge the gap between same-sex couples in need of wedding, travel, life planning and family resources and gay-friendly businesses that support equal rights. To date, RWN has produced thirteen wedding and family expos in cities including San Francisco, Atlanta, Boston and Hartford. The upcoming Expo in New Jersey is free to the public, and all supporters of marriage equality are encouraged to attend.

The “Same Love, Same Rights”® Wedding and Family Expo will feature over 50 GLBT-friendly vendors and pro-gay organizations. Entertainment company Ultrax Disc Jockeys will emcee the event, with live acts scheduled throughout the day including singer/songwriter Lucie Blue Tremblay. The Clinton Inn Hotel’s catering staff will provide food samples and host a celebratory cake-cutting ceremony. All attending guests will receive the latest issue of Rainbow Wedding Network Magazine, a national quarterly publication dedicated to same-sex weddings and marriage equality issues.

The Expo will also serve as the launch point for RWN’s new national Mobile Marriage Summit. All those attending the rally will have the opportunity to share their ideas and speak on the issue of marriage equality. There will be petition-signing, guest speakers and photo opportunities for couples to contribute to the online nationwide ‘Commitment’ Photo Album. Additional Mobile Marriage Summits are planned for New Hampshire and Oregon.

“The civil union legislation in NJ was an historic milestone, and an important move in the right direction,” says Cindy Sproul, co-founder of RainbowWeddingNetwork. “But there is more work to be done. We look forward to an Expo filled with fun and vital resources for couples in the planning stages, but also to a day of political networking and a refreshed vision of Equality for the state of New Jersey.”

Launched in 2000, RWN has grown to become the most extensive wedding resource for the gay and lesbian community in the United States. RWN produced its first expo in 2003 and released the national Rainbow Wedding Network Magazine in 2006. To date, RWN has produced thirteen different expos in eight states.

For more information about nationwide events produced by RainbowWeddingNetwork.com please visit http://www.RainbowWeddingExpo.com and for more same-sex wedding and marriage resources, visit http://www.RainbowWeddingNetworkMagazine.com

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Come Out & Play: Takeshii

Friday, May 25th, 2007

This week’s Come Out & Play post spotlights Takeshii, a 22-year-old Japanese-American engineering student:

My story isn’t that loud or spectacular, but.. I think it’s the way it happens for a lot of people. I didn’t really come out, people just.. eventually guessed and prodded until I admitted it.

It became apparent to everyone by my junior year of high school. My sisters both suspected because I never dated, but my friends were surprised because I don’t have the stereotypical tell-tale signs. They just thought I was a shy FOB and American girls were too scary for me.

Eventually my sisters asked and I just shrugged and said “..Yeah.. I like guys.” I guess I’m lucky that my step-mom was as liberal as they come, and was cool about it. Maybe it was because I’m not her actual son. My dad, though..

He’s the kind of guy who likes to pretend to be a good guy, and wants everyone else to believe it too. He acts like he’s accepting of it, and me. But he makes a lot of gay jokes in this really nasty way. He’s half attacking but half trying to make you think he isn’t, to cover his ass. What I hate most is the way he looks at me. As if saying “You should be glad your Mother isn’t alive to see this.”

I remember my Mother. As I remember her.. she was a rebel. I don’t think she would have cared. She’d still have been my Mother.

I get different reactions in America, it’s so controversial sometimes.. sometimes I get praised, but other times people look at me like I am the devil. When I’m home in Japan.. when people found out they were like, “Ohhhh, SUGOI!” (Trans: cool.) They ask a lot of questions and are very interested. I guess it’s cultural differences. Sometimes it makes me homesick.

I guess the American uncertainty made me shy on the dating scene. After graduation I started working in bars as a bouncer, but I never dated much.. just one night stands and random hookups. They were easy, and I didn’t want any boyfriends, really. I guess I thought I was a wild boy.. people tried to hook me up, there were crushes.. but until I figured out my needs and curiosities, I wasn’t ready for that.

Now I guess I’ve matured. I’m in school, studying for an engineering degree, and I’m just.. content with my life, and my sexuality. I’m not involved right now and don’t plan to be.. I have other things I need to take care of. But I’m out and I’m okay with who I am and how I feel about it, and that’s part of being content with my life.

Tune in every Friday for the Come Out & Play series, featuring coming out stories of celebrities, every day people, personal reflections, advice, tid bits and everything else concerning the complicated world of coming out!

Got an interesting coming out story to tell? Contact me and I will feature it in an upcoming post of Come Out & Play.

Notable Lesbians

Thursday, May 24th, 2007

This week’s Notable Lesbian is:

Gertrude Malissa Nix Pridgett Rainey
September, 1882 – December 22, 1939

Better known as Ma Rainey, this extraordinary woman one of the earliest known professional blues singers and one of the first generation of such singers to record.MaRainey_1.jpg She was billed as “The Mother of the Blues.” She did much to develop and popularize the form and was an important influence on younger blues women, such as Bessie Smith, and their careers. Although she married fellow vaudeville singer William ‘Pa’ Rainey in 1904, it was widely known, though less discussed, that she was bisexual.

Interesting tid bit:
Rainey signed with Paramount Records and, between 1923 and 1928, she recorded 100 songs, sometimes accompanied such jazz notables as Louis Armstrong, Kid Ory, Fletcher Henderson, and others. The 1982 August Wilson play Ma Rainey’s Black Bottom was based on her career

Went out last night with a crowd of my friends,
They must have been women, ’cause I don’t like no men.
Wear my clothes just like a fan
Talk to gals just like any old man
‘Cause they say I do it, ain’t nobody caught me
Sure got to prove it on me.

~ Ma Rainey, Prove It On Me

The pic above was provided by The New Georgia Encyclopedia

If you have a suggestion for a Notable Lesbian, contact me and I’ll highlight her in an upcoming post.

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Screened Out: Gay images in film

Wednesday, May 23rd, 2007

TCM, otherwise known as Turner Classic Movies, is doing something special. Or, at least I happen to think it’s pretty special.

It’s Pride season and TCM has decided to explore over six decades of Pride & Prejudice in film. childrens_hour.jpg Forty-four movies tracing stereotypes, innuendos and honest portrayals of gays and lesbians in cinema. Co-hosted by Screened Out author Richard Barrios, and featuring interviews with Alan Cumming, Tab Hunter, Armistead Maupin, Michael Musto, Ron Nyswear and more.

Barrios, with degrees in musicology and cinema studies, worked in the music and documentary film industries before turning to film history. His award-winning works include A Song in the Dark: The Birth of the Musical Film and Screened Out: Playing Gay in Hollywood from Edison to Stonewall. He has written for numerous publications, including The New York Times, and has lectured on film at the Smithsonian and American Film Institutes, among other venues. For Turner Classic Movies, he narrated and appeared in Busby Berkeley: Going Through the Roof as well as appearing in several other documentaries on television and DVD. Originally hailing from the swamps of South Louisiana, Barrios currently resides in the Philadelphia area.

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Tune in for such classics at Queen Christina (1933), Reflections In A Golden Eye (1967), The Children’s Hour - my personal favorite (1962), Syvia Scarlett (1935), The Fox (1967), and The Sign of the Cross (1932).

It all begins in June at 8 p.m. on Mondays and Wednesday. Set your DVRs and your TIVOs, and for you old schoolers out there, your VCRs.

This is one program you won’t want to miss. For those of you into reading instead of watching television, you’ll find some interesting reading material here.

Comment Question: What’s your favorite gay/lesbian movie?

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The punishment fits the crime

Tuesday, May 22nd, 2007

What punishment would you inflict on a teenager convicted of a violent homophobic crime? ~ Yahoo news

Flip the script on them so to speak or make them walk a mile in a gay man’s shoes.

Brighton’s hate crime unit ordered a homophobic teenager to spend a day working as an intern at the gay magazine 3SIXTY as part of his sentence. The boy had been part of a group who attacked a gay high school teacher in Dukes Mound, Brighton, early one Sunday morning.

Craig, the teacher, sustained a damaged lymph system, a scratched cornea and cuts and bruises across his face and body. He was hospitalized the following week with an infection that threatened to spread to his brain and was readmitted later with blood clots.

Craig was determined the offender should receive an appropriate sentence. He said, “As a gay man, I have experienced low-level homophobia throughout my life, such as name calling. I learned to roll the punches, but for me this punch was one blow too far.

“I like to think in reporting this crime, I helped stop it (from) happening to others.”

Sussex police were inspired by similar projects in San Francisco, where anti-gay criminals have been required to work for gay organizations as part of their sentences.
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It opened up this young man’s eyes, maybe it could do the same for others. images_1.jpegI’m not sure this type of punishment would work for a middle aged man or older since his beliefs and stereotypes have already been cemented making them harder to change. But for an impressionable adolescent who is still forming his or her opinions and ideas about society and the world in general, this is the perfect approach.

Reach them, teach them to open their eyes and see what can happen. Truth is infectious.

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To be or not to be: is homosexuality a choice?

Monday, May 21st, 2007

To those of you who expected a religious or scientific debate on this matter, I hate to disappoint you. I’m not going to approach this subject from either a religious or scientific point of view. Instead I am going to discuss this sensitive topic and draw from the best possible resource at my disposal - my own personal experience.

I wasn’t going to write on this subject, I didn’t want to. But certain signs kept pointing me in its direction. First, there was the special on Sixty Minutes last week called, “Nature vs. Nuture.” Then I got into an intellectual conversation with another 451 blogger who offered her own insight based on personal experience. I knew then that I wanted to write about whether homosexuality was a choice, but I also knew that I didn’t want to base my article merely on statistical information, scientific jargon or religious doctrine.

What I wanted to do was look inward and decide whether or not I had made a conscious choice to be a lesbian.

This is what I found.
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Come Out & Play: telling your doctor

Friday, May 18th, 2007

Doctor: What’s wrong?
Patient: I have a sore throat.
Doctor: Anything else?
Patient: Yes … I’m gay.

Sounds easy, doesn’t it? But, as we all know, coming out is never an easy task – no matter who it is. This week’s Come Out & Play post spotlights coming out to your doctor.

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Notable Lesbians

Thursday, May 17th, 2007

This week’s Notable Lesbian is:

Audre Geraldine Lorde
February 18, 1934 - November 17, 1992

Audre Lorde was born in New York City to parents of West Indian heritage. The youngest of five children, she grew up in Harlem, hearing her mother’s stories about the West Indies. lorde2.jpg She wrote her first poem when she was in the eighth grade. Her first volume of poems, The First Cities, was published in 1968. In the 1980s, Lorde and writer Barbara Smith founded Kitchen Table: Women of Color Press. She was the poet laureate of New York from 1991-1992 and died of breast cancer in 1992.

Interesting tid bit: While studying Library Science after getting her BA from Hunter College, Lorde supported herself working various odd jobs: factory worker, ghost writer, social worker, X-ray technician, medical clerk, and arts and crafts supervisor. Lorde was also nearsighted and legally blind.

“I have come to believe over and over again that what is most important to me must be spoken, made verbal and shared, even at the risk of having it bruised or misunderstood.” ~ Audre Lorde

The Collected Poems Of Audre Lordewas published in 1997.

If you have a suggestion for a Notable Lesbian, contact me and I’ll highlight her in an upcoming post.

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Going rural for Pride

Wednesday, May 16th, 2007

With Pride season upon us, I thought I’d lighten things up a bit from the previous posts and give you all some exciting places to visit to celebrate GLBT Pride.

I’m not really a Pride person myself. I enjoy a festival as much as the next person, but I’ve been to enough Pride celebrations to appreciate the experience for what it is. I feel as though I celebrate myself each and every day of my life. Plus, some Pride events can get a little out of hand with the Out & Proud vs. Out & Loud factor. For more on that, read Adri’s view of the matter.

Back to Pride. My first Pride experience was when I was living in Boston and if there is any Pride parade you should attend at least once in your life, it’s the Boston Pride parade. It was amazing and for a Pride virgin, it literally took my breath away. I’ve also attended Toronto Pride and Buffalo Pride. I give my home city props for organizing the event on such a small scale because for what it is, the Pride committee here in the B-lo puts together a pretty good show.

Big city Pride festivals differ from small city Pride festivals immensely. Though you often here about the widely fun and crazy celebrations happening on the east coast, the west coast and in Canada, here are a few worthwhile rural (yes, I said rural) Pride festivals worth attending according to PlanetOut.com:

Fed up with the same old gargantuan, slick big-city Prides? Want a bit more character in your out-and-proud shenanigans this year? Make a date with a Pride festival off the beaten track and see how this crop of fresh-faced small towns and cities in the middle of predominantly rural areas proudly put rainbows on their calendars.

Fargo-Moorhead Pride, North Dakota
June 1-3, 2007

www.pridecollective.com
Rainbow-hued rollerskating gets Fargo’s Pride activities under way May 29. A host of enticing activities career along in its wake, from coffee shop hops and bowling to drag shows, dancing, a beer bust and a rally. Weekend highlights in the city known as “The Gateway to the West” include volleyball and softball at Lindenwood Park’s Pride Park and a Fierce Drag Show.

Bisbee Gay Pride 2007, Bisbee, Arizona
June 15-17, 2007

www.bisbeepride.com
The West is getting wilder in tiny Bisbee (population 6,000), a former copper-mining town at the foot of the picturesque Mule Mountains. Once known as “the Queen of the Copper Camps,” Bisbee’s queens and kings camp it up during a drag race and bull run in Brewery Gulch, square dancing, a turn-of-the-century ball, and other such high-spirited goings-on during this southern Arizona mountain town’s jaunty annual Pride celebrations.

Montana Pride Celebration 2007, Montana
June 15-17, 2007

www.prideinbillings.org
“Magic City” sits in south central Montana, close to Yellowstone National Park. The biggest city in a 500-mile radius serves as a focal point for gay folks from Montana and Wyoming. Eric Himan and BETTY will be on hand to help mark this year’s theme, “From Silence to Celebration,” and tattoo artists will be among the vendors at the festival — if you want to make it an event you’ll really never forget.

Pride in the Park 2007, Fort Collins, Colorado
June 16, 2007

www.prideinthepark.org
Billing it as a “hometown Pride,” College town Fort Collins celebrates its fourth Pride in 2007. Civic Center Park is the site for an expected 1,000 people to enjoy a sunny northern Colorado day’s entertainment, kids’ games, more than 40 vendors and craftspeople, a beer garden, silent auction and tempting door prizes.

Rendezvous 2007, Medicine Bow, Wyoming
Aug. 1-5, 2007

www.wyomingequality.org
This one is as rural as it gets. Camp out under the stars for five days in the Medicine Bow National Forest, between Laramie and Cheyenne. Wyoming’s Rendezvous 2007 offers five days of good old-fashioned LGBT fun. Kicking off with a pot-luck dinner, the rest of the week is crammed full of activities, contests, workshops and entertainment, including the intriguing-sounding Fractured Faerie Tale.

For all you granola-eating, crunchy lesbians out there, start marking your calendars for these Pride events today!

Comment Question: What’s the best Pride you’ve ever been to?

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What constitutes a hate crime anyway?

Tuesday, May 15th, 2007

In light of the post I wrote yesterday and the amount of responses and attention it garnered, I thought that today I would do a bit of a follow up post – not so much on Erin and her “fag bug” but on the crime committed against her itself. Or should I say, “hate crime.”

There were many people who commented yesterday (not below but on other sites) about the term “hate crime” and what it meant or what it claimed to mean.

I thought I’d take this opportunity to revisit this term and define it properly.

According to the dictionary, a hate crime can be defined as a “crime, usually violent, motivated by prejudice or intolerance toward a member of a gender, racial, religious or social group.”

What happened to Erin’s car was definitely a crime, as her car was vandalized. What made it a hate crime is the fact that there were homophobic slurs used. Had someone simply written “u suck” or “dumb ass” on the car, it would have been different. But the culprit, or culprits as the case may be, made a point to attack Erin’s sexual orientation and to demean her for it.

The motivation behind it came from hate – hate for homosexuality and for her lifestyle. The fact that something as simple as a rainbow sticker can incite such behavior boggles my mind. I see plenty of bumpers with slogans that I abhor but as much as they bother me, I wouldn’t go buy a can of spray paint and vandalize their car because of it. People have a right to express themselves, and to have pride in who they are whether that be through race, religion, sexuality, etc.

Current legislation allows federal prosecution of a hate crime only if the crime was motivated by race, religion, national origin, or color. In addition, the assailant must intend to prevent the victim from exercising a federally protected right. The Hate Crimes Prevention Act of 1999, passed by the Senate in July 1999, seeks to expand federal jurisdiction over these crimes.

Some people think that a crime is a crime period. But would you say that getting arrested for drunk driving is the same thing as seeking out someone on the street because they looked differently from you, beating them senseless and leaving them for dead?

I’ve been asked, “What makes a crime any worse that say if I murdered someone for money or murdered him or her because they were gay?”

First, it doesn’t matter either way for the victim because both situations are horrible. With that being said, the difference to me is the motivation behind the crime. Targeting someone simply because you hate their lifestyle, race, religious beliefs or what not is extremely upsetting to me. When a person commits a crimes based on hating someone, they are saying, “You are lower than me. You do not have a right to walk the streets I walk or share the same air as me. You are below me.” What gives any person the right to judge someone in that matter? Don’t we all come from the same pool of life? When someone is born a different color, does that make him or her less of a person? When someone is born gay (yes, I believe we are born this way) does that make him or her less of a person? What’s worse … does that make them deserving of an attack of some kind, physical or otherwise?

In today’s society, the way we define or phrase things is tricky. You can easily find yourself stepping on toes or stumbling over your words by accident. And when talking about hate crimes, you are often treading a fine line. I agree with the fact that crimes, all crimes that is, are inexcusable. But, and maybe this is because I am gay and know what it is liked to be looked at differently because of something that I am unable to control or change, I think that any crime committed out of hate is unforgivable.

I leave you with the following examples of a hate crime and I ask, do you think these people would still be alive had they not been targeted out of hate? To me, that is the difference that matters.

Matthew Shepard
On October 6, 1998, 21-year-old college student Matthew Shepard was tied to a fence in Laramie, Wyoming, pistol-whipped, then left for dead in the freezing night. He died six days later.

Danny Overstreet
On September 22, 2000, a man looking to “waste some faggots” entered a gay bar in Roanoke, Virginia and opened fire, killing Danny Overstreet, and injuring 6 others.

JR Warren
On the fourth of July, 2000, JR Warren, 26, who was black and gay, was beaten to death by three men in West Virginia, then run over by a car to make it look like a hit and run.

PFC Barry Winchell

Barry Winchell, 21, was beaten to death by fellow service members while sleeping in his cot on July 5, 1999 at Fort Campbell, Ky. His Army colleagues thought (correctly) that he was gay, so they killed him.

Billy Jack Gaither

Billy Jack Gaither, 39, of Sylacauga, Alabama was bludgeoned to death by two men on Feb. 19, 1999, then set on fire with automobile tires because he was gay.

- provided by hatecrime.org


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Who’s driving the “fag bug” and why?

Monday, May 14th, 2007

Erin Davies, a 29-year-old graduate student at Sage Graduate School, began her day like any other. She left her home in the historic Mansion Hill neighborhood of Albany, NY intending to go to her part-time job at a Moe’s, a local Mexican restaurant. Full of smiles and an optimistic anticipation for the day, she headed towards her parked 2002 grey Volkswagen Beetle. But when she drew closer, she saw something red on her hood.

“From where I was standing, I couldn’t read what it said so I kept walking,” Erin explained. “When I got close enough to read it, I realized what is said. I stopped dead in my tracks in total shock.” What Erin saw were the words, “u r gay” written in red spray paint. After a few seconds, she noticed another word, “fag,” glaring back at her from her driver’s side window.

“After what the person wrote sunk in, I thought to myself – it’s because of the rainbow sticker on the back of my car.”

Erin has been out of the closet and living life openly as a lesbian for the past 12 years. She couldn’t fathom anyone who knew her would do such a thing, nor have just cause to do so.

“If someone who knew me wanted to personally hurt me, they wouldn’t write, ‘u r gay’ on my car,” she said. “It’s like writing ‘u r straight’ on someone car who is straight. It doesn’t have any impact or weight.”

Erin assumed that whomever spray-painted her car wanted her to feel that being gay was a bad thing instead of something she should be proud of. Her rainbow sticker was an obvious display of gay pride and clued the culprit in on her sexual orientation. erin_n_bug2_1.jpg Being that she was on her way to her part-time job, Erin didn’t have time to call the police. So she got in her car and began to creep up the street. After getting only about a half block, people were already pointing and gawking at the homophobic graffiti on display.

“I put my car in reverse and went right back into the spot I had left it. It was a good thing my girlfriend was home that day. Had she not been home, I would have probably broken down emotionally.”
Erin eventually made it to her part-time job, but left early so that she could call the police and report the incident. While waiting for the cops to arrive, she noticed over 50 people walk by her car. “It brought strangers out on the streets together to form a dialogue,” she said. “People were shocked, disturbed and outraged by what they saw.”

Transforming a crime into a cause

It took two days for Erin to digest what had happened. She felt violated and yet, at the same time, oddly empowered. At first she wanted to remove herself physically and maybe somewhat emotionally from her car. She rented a different car and tried to put the incident aside but kept getting stopped by neighbors, friends and strangers who voiced their support and anger for had happened or to scold her for having the rainbow sticker on her car in the first place.

“I realized at that point that I couldn’t get away from this,” said Erin. “I figured that maybe there was a reason for it.”

After weighing a few options, Erin made the decision to ditch the rental car and keep her Volkswagen Beetle as it was. She took it school one day as a test drive to see if it would incite any reactions like it had in her own neighborhood.

“I wanted to see if I could get any unsolicited reactions on video,” she said. “I do a lot of documentary work and found the polar responses to be quite intriguing.”

Erin drove her newly transformed bug to Sage Graduate School where she is working towards her MAT in Education. She parked it in front of the admissions building and with in one hour, public safety received over 50 phone calls mentioning the car in both good and bad light. Erin was asked to remove her car from campus and was also dismissed from working an event she was scheduled to work over the weekend because the school officials didn’t want her car there.
However, her advisor, Cheryl VanDenmark, and Connell Frazer, the dean of the school of education, both encouraged Erin to keep her car at school and to continue driving it to raise awareness. At this suggestion, an idea began to form in her head.

“That night I was on Capital News 9 and initially decided I was going to drive the car for one week, which seemed like an eternity at the time,” said Erin. “Soon my timeline of a week turned into a month and so on and so forth.”

The very next day, Erin received a call from a close friend of hers who set up a website and a Myspace page for the aptly named, “fag bug.”

“He loved how I took the incident to a place that was high profile, and seeing the various reactions I was getting, he said he could see me taking [the car] across the country and doing it on a much larger scale.”
With that Erin launched the “fag bug” campaign that is now garnering national attention.

Hitting the road

At the end of June, Erin will hit the road with her “fag bug” and travel across the country and in Canada stopping in various cities, at pride events and participating in speaking engagements along the way. The point of the trip is to expose the kind of homophobia that is still a regular occurrence in today’s society.

“The typical reaction,” explained Erin. “Is to cover something like this up as quick as possible and to move on with our lives. But even if it was covered up, I would still see that image every time I saw my car.” Rather than pretend the whole thing hadn’t happened, Erin is thrusting herself into the public eye in order to make a profound statement.

“Homophobia isn’t just my problem to solve,” she said. “It’s everyone’s. We all need to come together to figure out where this type of behavior comes from, who is teaching it and how it can be changed.”The lesson of the “fag bug” is that, even in 2007, somewhere, someone is learning to be hateful. “Rather than be bullied into taking my rainbow sticker off my car, I’m going to try and get one million people (gay and straight) to add my “fag bug” rainbow sticker to their own cars so that the kinds of people who support this kind of behavior know that we aren’t going to let them target us again!”

Erin hopes to get a national television network to film her on her cross-country trek and turn it into a documentary series. Her primary goal is to raise awareness among people who aren’t in the gay and lesbian community. By documenting her trip, she hopes to expose a multicultural perspective on why America is so intolerant towards acts of hate.

“We hear the word ‘fag’ being thrown around in schools and daily conversations so often, but we don’t stop to think of how that term can be hurtful to some people,” said Erin. “There is no way to avoid it. I’m confronting homophobia, hate and intolerance head on rather than let it control me. If every hateful act inspired groups of people to withdraw from being visible, then [the gay and lesbian community] would quickly bring ourselves back thirty years.”

By calling her campaign “fag bug,” Erin is taking the power out of the word ‘fag’ and making it part of a fun, playful and intriguing movement. “Words no longer have power over us when we decide to change the meaning of the word,” she added.

A lesson before driving

Coincidentally, Erin has already been involved in the GLBT movement as an activist for the past ten years working with GLBT youth in Baltimore on a play called, “Living Proof.”

“It was meant to empower them and do something positive to counter all the negative statistics out there regarding GLBT youth, like suicide, depression, isolation, HIV, homelessness, etc.,” said Erin.

She has learned from her youth work that the GLBT community as a whole is constantly looking for a hero, for someone to speak up for them, and through this incident, she has been able to provide that, to stand up for people who may have encountered a similar situation but lacked the courage, confidence or resources to face it.

“My ‘Living Proof’ is that I am outlasting a bad situation and turning it into something positive through my journey,” said Erin, in reference to the play she was working on. “If I had kept this all to myself and removed the graffiti from my car, I’d feel unsafe in my neighborhood and be fixated on who did it, what happened and why it happened to me.”

Because of Erin’s persistence, the police have been forced to take this situation seriously though they have yet to find the culprit or culprits.

“I was grilled three separate times by different officers about who my enemies were,” she said. “There was no acknowledgement of this being a hate crime until after my decision to keep the car as it was made the local news.”

Since she took a stand, Erin’s entire neighborhood and community, family, and friends as well as the national and international media, have supported her. She’s received letters and e-mail from all over the country and from around the world praising her.

“So far I’ve gotten 1000 nice e-mails and two negative ones. A local mechanic even left me note offering to fix my car for free because he was so disgusted by what had been written on it.” With so much support and appreciation for what she has chosen to do with her “fag bug,” Erin knows that she made the right decision.

“As far as my healing with this goes, I feel very positive about the fact that I can take this negative situation and turn it into a positive one.”

Pimpin’ the ride

At the end of her journey, Erin hopes to turn her car into her “fag bug” sticker as a visual reminder for everyone in the GLBT community to feel proud of who they are. She has already approached MTV’s Pimp My Ride with Xzibit to transform her “fag bug” into a moving pride symbol. bug_logo_1.jpg

“Having my car painted will bring things together, and make me excited to drive my car again,” said Erin. “It would be an exciting conclusion to my trip.

Though she may end up having the paint removed from her car, and stripping her bug clean only to have repainted and detailed with vibrant rainbow colors and the “fag bug” slogan across the side, Erin will always remember the red spray paint that launched her into a journey of self empowerment and gave her a new found pride in the GLBT community as a whole.

To contribute to the “fag bug” campaign, to buy a “fag bug” sticker, or to contact Erin for an event in your city, visit her website.

Erin plans to keep us all here at Lez Keep it Real updated throughout her journey with guests posts once a week. Stay tuned to find out where and when “The ‘fag bug’s been spotted!” next in upcoming posts.

comment question: Would you drive around in a vehicle that had been spray painted with the words “fag” and “u r gay?”


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