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Come Out & Play: An adult leap of faith

Friday, September 28th, 2007

Today’s Come Out & Play post spotlights coming out as an adult, taking a leap of faith during the middle ages of your life. It’s hard to come out, period. But it’s even harder to come out when your life has already taken another path, when you have already gone down the road for miles only to realize that maybe you should have turned off at a previous exit some time ago. But, even if the road gets bumpy, it’s never too late to come out of the closet.

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Notable Lesbians

Thursday, September 27th, 2007

This week’s Notable Lesbian is:
Renée Vivien, born Pauline Mary Tarn
June 11, 1877-November 10, 1909

Renée Vivien was a British poet who wrote in the French language. She took to heart all the mannerisms of symbolism, as one of the last poets to claim allegiance to the school. 180px_Renee_Vivien.pngHer compositions include sonnets, hendecasyllabic verse, and prose poetry. Vivien was born in London, England to a wealthy British father and an American mother from Jackson, Michigan. She grew up in Paris and London. Upon inheriting her father’s fortune at 21, she emigrated permanently to France. Vivien was cultivated and very well-traveled, especially for a woman of the late Victorian and Edwardian periods. She wintered in Egypt, visited China, and explored much of the Middle East, as well as Europe and America. Contemporaries considered her beautiful and elegant, with blonde hair, brown eyes flecked with gold, and a soft-spoken androgynous presence. Before the manifestations of illness, Vivien was well-proportioned and fashionably slender. She wore expensive clothes and particularly loved Lalique jewelry. She died on at the age of 32; the cause of death was reported at the time as “lung congestion”, but likely resulted from pneumonia complicated by alcoholism, drug abuse, and anorexia nervosa. Vivien was interred at Passy Cemetery in the same exclusive Parisian neighborhood where she had lived.

Interesting tid bit:
In Paris, Vivien’s dress and lifestyle were as notorious among the bohemian set as was her verse. She lived lavishly, as an open lesbian, and carried on a well-known affair with American heiress and writer Natalie Clifford Barney. She also harbored a lifelong obsession with her closest childhood friend and neighbor, Violet Shillito – a relationship that remained unconsummated. In 1900 Vivien abandoned this chaste love, when the great romance with Natalie Barney ensued. The following year Shillito died of typhoid fever, a tragedy from which Vivien, guilt-ridden, would never fully recover. During her brief life, Vivien was an extremely prolific poet who came to be known as the “Muse of the Violets”, derived from her love of the flower. Her obsession with violets (as well as with the color violet) was a reminder of her beloved childhood friend, Violet.

You for whom I wrote, O beautiful young women!
You alone whom I loved, will you reread my verse…?
Will you say, ‘This woman had the ardor which eludes me ..
Why is she not alive? She would have loved me ….’
Everywhere I go I repeat: I do not belong here.
Who will bring me hemlock in their own hands?

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If you have a suggestion for a Notable Lesbian, e-maill me at lyndsey.darcangelo@451press.net or use the contact form above and I’ll highlight her in an upcoming post.

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Good News Moment of the Week

Wednesday, September 26th, 2007

As I was skimming through headlines this morning, I found it hard to find some good news. It was terribly depressing. But I unearthed this little ditty. Reading it made me feel good, which is he whole point of the Good News Moment. I hope it has the same affect on you.

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A lesson in GLBT history

Tuesday, September 25th, 2007

I’ve decided to take you all to school … well, I’ve decided to let the Advocate take you all to school actually. It’s time to brush up on your GLBT history.advocate.jpg And the Advocate has taken the liberty of outlining the past 40 years for us. I’ve already gone through some of the key time periods … and even I’m a little wet behind the ears. I’m beginning to think that GLBT history should be a course taught in schools. I think it’s available as a college course, but some of this stuff is not only noteworthy, but essential in the teaching of tolerance.

I’ve taken the liberty of posting time periods below, linking you to the Advocate’s website on 40 years of gay history. Each time period discusses key events covered by the magazine with articles, video clips and more. Please take a moment to read, watch, and more importantly, learn.
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Gay characters on television

Monday, September 24th, 2007

Studies crack me up sometimes. You can basically do a study on anything these days. So when I came across this article this morning in USA Today, I knew I had to take it with a grain of salt.
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Come Out & Play: Jack McPhee from Dawson’s Creek

Friday, September 21st, 2007

Today’s Come Out & Play post spotlights Jack, a well-known character from the now defunct WB’s 90’s adolescent drama, Dawson’s Creek.

Remember the good ol’ days when Katie Holmes was normal? Before she was hypnotized, mummified, cloned or whatever by Tom Cruise and his band of Scientologists? Remember when she was just Joey, the cute, cynical tomboy who, whenever she would smile, would make my heart go pitter-patter? Ah … ahem. I loved that show, even though the characters spoke in intellectual tongues, weaving a tapestry of words that real kids their age wouldn’t even know how to spell, let alone use in a complete sentence. Half the time I didn’t even know what they were talking about. (There I go, off on a tangent again!)

What I did appreciate, however, was the emergence of Jack as a gay character. This was during a time when gay characters were becoming more visible on general programming (primetime television). And I was able to unearth the coming out episode on YouTube!

So, here it is. Jack’s coming out story … enjoy!
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Notable Lesbians

Thursday, September 20th, 2007

This week’s Notable Lesbian is:

Lillian Faderman
1940 -

Lillian Faderman
image007.jpg is a scholar whose books on lesbian relationships in history have earned critical praise and awards including the Stonewall Book Award, the Lambda Literary Editor’s Choice Award, the Lambda Literary Award for Best Lesbian/Gay Anthology and the Publishers Triangle Bill Whitehead Award. She is currently a professor of English at California State University. Faderman studied first at UCLA and later at the University of California, Berkeley. She lives with her partner of thirty years, Phyllis. They have one son, Avrom, who earned a PhD from Stanford University.

Interesting tid bit:
Faderman was raised by her mother, Mary, and her aunt, Rae. In 1923, the two emigrated from a shtetl in Latvia to the lower east side of Manhattan, hoping to marry well enough to pay for their sisters and brothers to join them in the United States. The plan was unsuccessful; the rest of the family were killed during Hitler’s extermination of European Jews. The family moved to Los Angeles, where with her mother’s encouragement Faderman took acting classes. She began modeling as a teenager, discovered the gay bar scene and met her first girlfriend. Before she graduated from high school, she married a gay man much older than herself, a marriage which lasted less than a year and was mainly done at the insistence of her mother and aunt.

If you have a suggestion for a Notable Lesbian, e-maill me at lyndsey.darcangelo@451press.net or use the contact form above and I’ll highlight her in an upcoming post.

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Hooray for gay corporate America

Wednesday, September 19th, 2007

I’m a fan of good news. There’s a reason why I don’t watch the news before I go to bed. The news likes to report mostly on bad news, and who needs to go to sleep with bad news on their mind? Not me. I wish there was a channel that only reported good news. But it wouldn’t get any ratings. Let’s face it. Most people like reading bad news. It’s gives them something to harp on, something to talk about and maybe even makes them feel better knowing that the incident they are reading about isn’t happening to them. Damn, that sounded cynical … Adri over at Darkside Rainbow must be rubbing off on me!

Because I am such a fan of good news, I’m going to institute a new weekly feature here at Lez Keep it Real. Introducing the Good News Moment
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My conversation with Mia Michaels

Tuesday, September 18th, 2007

Some of you may not know,mia.jpg but I have written an article about Mia Michaels for Curve Magazine. The article will publish sometime soon (still waiting to hear when) so I can’t reveal what she and I spoke about. All I can say is that she’s incredibly candid and a true free spirit.

But … for those of you who don’t want to wait until the Curve article publishes, I have some exciting news! I was restricted with a word limit and since the conversation I had with Mia lasted about 40 minutes, I have some left over material that wasn’t used for the article. So to all you Mia Michaels fans … here you go. This is part of the conversation I had with her.

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The ethics of outing

Monday, September 17th, 2007

I listen to podcasts at work sometimes. A friend of mine told me to listen to one in particular this morning. It was a discussion on NPR about the ethics of outing. Meaning, is it right to out someone for political or personal agendas?

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Come Out & Play: Chicken Soup Book

Friday, September 14th, 2007

I know when you read the title of this post, you were probably like … huh?

Let me explain.

Today’s Come Out & Play post spotlights Chicken Soup for the Soul: Celebrating Brothers and Sisters!

Why you ask? Well, because the book comes out in stores tomorrow and yours truly has a short story published in it!

It’s a great book if you have a sibling or multiple siblings. 518syw4I2OL._SL210_.jpgThe Chicken Soup for the Soul series may be corny at times, but it all depends on the book. It’s a pretty popular series and while over 10,000 stories are submitted to each book, only 100 actually make it in to publication. I’m happy to say that I was one of those 100 stories chosen.

So, get to your local bookstore or purchase a copy here.

Also: Keep an eye out for the anthology Best Lesbian Love Stories: Summer Flings, published by Alyson Books. I have a story being published in that as well. And, to be honest, that’s more our cup of tea!

Tune in every Friday for the Come Out & Play series, featuring coming out stories of celebrities, every day people, personal reflections, advice, tid bits and everything else concerning the complicated world of coming out!

Got an interesting coming out story to tell? Contact me and I will feature it in an upcoming post of Come Out & Play.

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Notable Lesbians

Thursday, September 13th, 2007

This week’s Notable Lesbian is:

Ann Bancroft
September 29, 1955 -

Ann Bancroft is a United States author, teacher, and adventurer. She was the first woman to successfully finish a number of arduous expeditions to the Arctic and Antarctic. 180px_AnnBancroft2006_02_06.JPGShe was also the first woman to ski across Greenland. In 1992 and 1993 Bancroft led a four woman expedition to the South Pole on skis. This expedition was the first group of women to reach the South Pole on skis. Her achievements led to her induction into the National Women’s Hall of Fame for the United States. Bancroft currently co-owns an exploration company, Bancroft Arnesen Explore, with Liv Arnesen. In March of 2007, Bancroft and Arnesen were taking part in a trek across the Arctic Ocean to draw attention to the problem of global warming. However, according to The Washington Post, the expedition was called off “after Arnesen suffered frostbite in three of her toes, and extreme cold temperatures drained the batteries in some of their electronic equipment.”

Interesting tid bit:
Bancroft is an out lesbian and in 2006, she publicly campaigned against a proposed amendment to the Minnesota Constitution to prohibit any legal recognition of marriages or civil unions between members of the same sex.

If you have a suggestion for a Notable Lesbian, e-maill me at lyndsey.darcangelo@451press.net or use the contact form above and I’ll highlight her in an upcoming post.

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The gayest thing on television

Wednesday, September 12th, 2007

And no, it’s not the Singing Bee.

When I was in North Carolina over Labor Day, I spent time catching up on my celebrity gossip. My friend, Allison, gets all of the juicy magazines - US Weekly, People, Rolling Stone, etc.

I bypassed a cover of US Weekly speculating that Brit was a bad parent (the girl is a train wreck, ’nuff said) and picked up the issue of Rolling Stone 15809009-15809011-large_1.jpgwith Zac Efron on the cover. He is quite beautiful, for a guy. He has such delicate features, an engaging singing voice and JT-esque abs. It’s hard not to stare at him, even for a lesbian like me. I was intrigued by the article for two reasons:

1) What’s up with this whole High School Musical thing and why are billions of gay people obsessed with it.

2) Is Zac efron gay?

Neither question was answered upon reading the article, though I did learn that Zac Efron is as squeaky clean an individual as he is a pretty boy. The enigma that is High School Musical continued to haunt me until today. I stumbled upon this hilarious column in the Advocate and I get it now. The reason High School Musical is so appealing is so simple, yet so profound. Basically, it’s the gayest thing on television right now …
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Recognizing the day …

Tuesday, September 11th, 2007

As most of you know, today is September 11th. I didn’t want to rehash the horror or sadness, but as I made my way into work this morning I couldn’t help but remember. This day, six years ago I was walking to work at Wheelock College (my first “real job” out of school was a web writer for a college in Boston, MA). As soon as I got in, I turned on the radio. The disc jockey was saying something about a plane hitting the World Trade Center. I thought it was a joke until a coworker came in to tell me that I needed to follow her quick. We jogged to the campus center where students, professors and administrative workers alike had gathered to watch the horrific story unfold on a big screen television. It was as if we were watching some morbid movie, only it was real.  The day was so surreal. It made everything else seem so trivial. Even now, when I think about writing day to day on this blog I wonder - does it really matter? Does it really matter if we are black, white, gay or straight? In the end, we are all human beings with lives, loved ones, friends,  hopes, dreams, fears and hearts. And that is what should matter.

Here are a few posts from around the network marking the day …

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Gray Matters

Monday, September 10th, 2007

I’m not a movie critic. In fact, I’ve only reviewed one movie in my writing career and that was Brokeback Mountain for obvious reasons. Last night, I watched Gray Matters with Heather Graham, Tom Cavanaugh and Bridget Moynahan - not your average cast for a GLBT themed movie.

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