Lez Keep It Real

Instead of breaking this down piece by piece, I thought I’d direct you all to an awesome podcast on the L word. Two sarcastic, incredibly charming and opinionated women from New Mexico break down each episode of the L Word once a week on The Planet: A Podcast for L Word Fans.

If you have an Ipod and (unless you live under a rock) visit Itunes on a regular basis, check out this podcast! It’s hilarious and often sparks a heated debate among the hosts and the trillions (it seems) of listeners they have attracted.

You can hear a great discussion on bisexuality between the two hosts, one identifies as a lesbian and the other identifies as a bisexual. Then, visit their blog to read the comments of lesbian, straight and bisexual women alike! Listen to Episode 411: Literary License To Kill. Then stop by their forum to spark a debate of your own!

It’s a brilliant way to hear and read many different side of this debate, far more than one I could give with only my opinion.

What is my opinion, you ask?

Well, when I first came out I identified as bisexual. I think that is the natural progression though. Most people that I speak with often tell me the same, gay or lesbian. It seems easier that way, to say well, “I like girls … but I still like men too.” Then, in most cases, the “but I still like men too” fades away and it eventually becomes, “I like girls.” At least that’s how it seems to happen.

For bisexual, the “but I still like men too,” never fades away. It remains as an imprint of their identity. I never understood why some gays and lesbians have a problem with this. To me I understand the fact that it’s the person more than anything. The physical parts don’t dictate who they fall in love with. And just as much as straight man can’t fight his attraction to a woman or a gay man can’t fight his attraction to a man, bisexuals can’t fight their attraction to men or women. Why should they have too? Who said you had to choose one or the other?

I understand the fact that there are some people out there who claim to be bisexual but are merely experimenting. I know first hand because I’ve been the “science experiment” on more than one occasion. I think it’s those people who give bisexuals a bad rap.

The bottom line is that we, as gay and lesbian people, already experience enough discrimination. There is no need to do it our own community by decreeing that bisexuals are “really” gay or that they aren’t gay enough.

I say that we all have a right to love who we love, with out reason or explanation. And since that’s what I wholeheartedly believe, I can’t possibly see being bisexual as being anything but acceptable.

I’m a lesbian remember … who am I to judge.

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