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Gay lifestyle

by Lyndsey Darcangelo

I’m so sick of this term, it isn’t even funny. After writing my post for yesterday, I was irked to no end. Especially when I saw a clip from The O’Reilly Factor about how gays are trying to impress their “gay lifestyle” upon mainstream culture.

@#$!!!!

It made me want to send an E-mail to Bill O’Reilly. And this is what I would have said:

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What is this “gay lifestyle” you constantly speak of? I am a 30-year-old lesbian who lives quite a boring life. The fact of the matter is that 90 percent of gay people are just like me. We don’t go clubbin’ every night, do drugs, have anonymous sex, force our sexuality on others, have sex in public bathrooms, walk around in leather chaps, spout gay rhetoric wherever we go, read and watch porn on a regular basis, drink ourselves silly, bash religion or religious organizations, or do many of the other outlandish things that are constantly shown on television and newscasts.

Why don’t you show any clips of normal, law-abiding respectful gay individuals on your show?

What bothers me the most is that this is the only exposure to gay people that some people have — what they see on television. And they attribute those images to every single gay person in the world. It just isn’t reality. Shows like “A Shot at Love With Tila Tequilla” or Newscasts showing Pride parade antics do not represent the entire gay population. It is the same for Christians who love and accept everyone but are given a bad rap because of those few radical Christians who make headlines in the media for the wrong reasons. Not every Christian is a radical. It is also the same thing to say that not every African American is a thug. It is an unfair assumption to label gays with the negative connotation that “gay lifestyle” imparts.

I have a great deal of respect for you and your opinion. My father loves you. My girlfriend, while she does not always agree with you, listens to your podcast on a regular basis.

This is our supposed “gay lifestyle:”

We own a house together. We spend vacations with our respective families. We work for highly respected companies. We go to the movies. We eat “family” dinners. We pay taxes. We listen to all sides of every issue, from both the conservative and liberal side. We believe in God. We donate to local and national charities. We love and respect our families. We believe in integrity. We vote.

Basically, I am just a regular person who leads a relatively calm and boring life. If that’s a “gay lifestyle,” then so be it.

Maybe one day we will be judged on who we are rather than what our sexual preference may be.

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One Response to “Gay lifestyle”

  1. Doug Robertson Says:

    You should have sent the email. Probably should, not that it would matter much, I’m sure. The only part I object to is the “have a great deal of respect for you” comment. Respect is something earned, don’t think he’s deserving.

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